A Family Vacation with Tweens and Teens
A Mom’s Vacation Diary
My husband and I decided that this year, our family would take a good, old-fashioned summer vacation. You know the type — fill the gas tank, load up the car, make a few hotel reservations and then start the drive. As soon as the kids heard this, they decided that it was time to start complaining. “I don’t feel like going away for that long,” protested my 13-year old. “Can’t we make it shorter?” “I want to go the beach!” exclaimed my 6-year old girl. “Do we really have to speak French?” asked my generally agreeable 10-year old, when he heard that our destinations would be in Quebec. It was then that I realized this vacation might be much more challenging than when the kids were little. How is it possible that I was longing for the days when our suitcases were filled with binkies, blankies and diapers? Despite the protests, we took off on our weeklong road trip. My husband would be the designated trip photographer. I would write a trip diary to accompany the photos. I had envisioned finding some quiet time to reflect on the day and jot down some memories. Apparently, that was too ambitious. Our days were filled and I was exhausted. So, I didn’t actually write the travel diary. But, if I had, here are the chapters I would include: Chapter 1: Long Car Rides Are No Big Deal When Everyone is All Plugged In With DVD players, ipods, satellite radio and GPS navigation systems, long car rides are much easier than the days when we all had to lie in the way back with our pillows, listening to Barry Manilow on 8-track tapes. Chapter 2: Reaching Consensus in Family Activities —also known as “yes, everyone is going to participate.” Seriously, how can you object to a water slide? Chapter 3: Why Did We Even Bother? Nobody Wants to Be Here. So much arguing and endless complaining. Is this how our parents felt? I think they might have. I need to call them and apologize. Chapter 4: I Am Not As Young And Fit As I Think I Am The day I spent waterskiing with my two older kids was very humbling. After years of bragging to the kids about my waterskiing prowess, I was thrilled to have the chance to share this activity with them. The kids looked great on skis and showed me everything they had learned at camp. I was very proud. When my turn came, I jumped in the lake, eager to show them tricks I hadn’t tried in more than 25 years. I wanted to show off. Big mistake. I strained my hamstring and suffered from leg pain for the rest of the trip. Very embarrassing. Chapter 5: I Might Really Be Starting To Relax After five days we are finally getting into the rhythm of the vacation. Has the complaining stopped? Or have I just tuned it out? Either way, I have noticed some great family moments. The kids pulled the headphones out of their ears. They are fighting less and playing together more. They even taught us a fun new game to play in the car. Chapter 6: Heading Home It’s hard to believe it’s that time already. Dare I ask, “Where are we going to go next year?”











I hate when my parents drag me on family vacations. I dont really care about “quality time” – I’d rather be with my friends.
To: leave me alone
You have a family that can afford a vacation, you are one of the fortunate few! Lives can change abruptly.
Imagine life without your family, your friends might not seem so attractive.
Love the article!!
I envision a few “Are we there yet?” too!
This article brings back memories from when i was a kid as well as now that i am the adult. And making memories is an important part of parenting. I LOLed at many points.
I took my kids to a family reunion vacation, it was one of the best vacations we have ever had, we watched no tv, played no video games and next to no internet access. It was wonderful, cannot wait to do it again
Dear Jennifer,
How did the kids react to no TV, no video games and no internet?
Wondering in Shaker Heights
I.F ,
The kids had a great time, they fished, hiked did art projects and swam. They really didn’t care about any of it. Also there were other kids there for them to hang out with and we took a couple of day trips, zip lining and into the closest major city. They really loved it and hated to leave the place we stayed.
I have to say that Leave me alone has merit. If the child doesn’t want to go don’t force them to but you should try to find a reason to make them want to go such as bring a friend along with a bit of pushing. The older they get the worse it is to force them because they will remember it in a bad light.
As a kid I refused to go anywhere with my parents because as time went by I realized one big thing, those trips didn’t let me be me. Looking back on it I would go but I am also glad my parents gave me room on that issue