I wrote a letter to my son going college. Every parent who has had a child leave for college knows that it’s an incredibly emotional experience and a moment filled with reflection. It’s hard to feel fully prepared for your child to take that next big step. With that in mind, I’d like to share with you my letter to my son including some life advice.
Dear Son,
I can hardly believe you’re a college freshman already. It feels like just yesterday when you were racing your toy cars across the living room and riding bikes in the neighborhood with your friends. Where did the time go? But here you are, about to start this new and exciting chapter. This is your time to explore the world and discover what you’re truly passionate about.
I’ll miss you more than I can say.
I know this experience will be great for you, but I can’t help thinking about how the house will feel without you here. Sure, you spent a lot of time on your iPad with your headphones on, lost in your world of music and gaming, but there was always that comforting background noise—your laughter, your voice excitedly talking about the latest game or show. You’ll stay in touch, I know, but it won’t be the same as seeing you grab a snack from the kitchen or watching you dive into a new project. I might even miss the trail of sneakers and sports gear you left around the house.
Advice For College Life
First, manage your time well and make good choices.
Your dad and I have always encouraged you to think things through before making decisions. Now, as you step into this new phase of life, remember to keep that habit. When faced with a choice, take a moment to consider its long-term effects. In college there will be a lot of exciting distractions. Remember to stay focused and manage your time wisely so you remain a well-rounded person. Go to class on time and don’t procrastinate too much on studying and homework.
Second, find friends who truly appreciate you.
You had a great group of friends in the neighborhood and in school, but they’re all going in different directions and nobody is going to your same school. This is an opportunity to start over and make a new group of friends. I’m sure you’ll have no problem being social, but just remember to find friends who truly appreciate you the same way your other friends did.
Third, take care of yourself.
You’ll have a lot more responsibilities now, including health, grades, and laundry. Keep some essentials on hand—medicine, healthy snacks, and whatever else you need when you’re not feeling your best. And remember, your body needs fuel, so while it’s easy to grab whatever’s convenient, try to balance it out with some healthier options. Make sure to get adequate amounts of sleep!
Lastly, when you’re feeling down, get active.
There will be times at college when you might feel lonely, overwhelmed, or just off. When that happens, get up and do something—anything. Call us, take a walk, play sports with friends, or hit the gym. Movement can help those feelings pass, and even the smallest steps forward count.
Keep This Letter
You’re an incredible young man—smart, funny, and kind. You’ve got a unique perspective on life, and I hope these next few years help you see just how capable you are. You’ve got everything you need to succeed. I hope this letter to you reminds you of how much we love you.
Remember, no matter what, your dad and I are always here for you.
We’re so proud of the man you’ve become. You’ve worked hard to get to this point, and now everything you do is for your own future and happiness. We want nothing but the best for you, my amazing son. PLEASE remember to call us regularly, we’ll be excited to hear from you!
Love,
Mom