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Internet Safety for Kids: Have the Conversation Today

When our kids were small, we had a long list of worries: stranger danger, running into the street, wandering off and so on. While we worried, our toddlers skipped through the playground, blissfully unaware of any potential danger. Our teens have grown into a new world of threats—cyberbullying, identity theft, online predators. Yet, for many teenagers, they remain similarly oblivious to any potential dangers of the internet. Our job is to ensure internet safety for kids. So how do we help our teens balance the threat of danger with the gift of technology?

Here are suggestions to start a meaningful conversation about cyber safety tips with your teens.

Top 10 Conversation Starters to Ensure Internet Safety

1) Which apps do you use most?

Asking your teen about their favorite apps will help you understand what he is encountering most often.

2) How can you tell if someone you “know” online is an imposter?

Your teenager thinks she is more tech savvy than you, and she might be right! So ask her about her process for determining the truth about the people she meets online. Encourage a little skepticism about people on the other side of the screen.

3) What’s the nastiest thing you’ve seen on social media?

Ask about bullying and how people handle it when it happens. Ask about the pressure to “like” or favorite or share gossip or hurtful comments. Do your best to really listen to her answers. Our kids benefit when they know we have empathy for their struggles.

4) Do your friends “subtweet?”

Subtweets are insulting tweets that obviously refer to one person but never mention their name. Other social media likely has its own version of subliminal meanness.

5) Talk to me about your favorite social media sites.

Get involved, and give your teen a chance to take you on a tour of their online social experiences.

6) Let’s google your name and see what comes up.

Search your teen’s digital footprint. Once both of you recognize the ease of finding this information—for you and for everyone else—then you can talk about whether she is comfortable with the public nature of her pictures, videos, homework assignments, tweets, texts, Facebook updates.

7) How do you choose the amount information to share about yourself online?

Does your teen have a litmus test? Or a list of information he will not post, like address, birthdate, pictures of siblings or friends? Start a dialogue to help him (and you) decide.

8) Why do you think your parents need your passwords?

Until our kids are at or close to the end of high school, we need their passwords – all of them. We are responsible, ethically and legally, for their behavior online. Of course our teens feel they deserve their privacy and that we ought to be able to trust them. We can trust them about one thing – they will have the judgment of teenagers. That means sometimes they will behave admirably and sometimes they will mess up. We need to know about both, in order to give them feedback and guide them.

9) What should we be doing to protect your younger sibling online?

Often people will do for others what they don’t bother to do for their own wellbeing. Kids may disregard their own safety, but will usually jump in to put guidelines in place to shelter someone just a year or two younger. Use that instinct to help your family talk about the important issues and put guidelines in place that offer true protection.

10) What is the greatest thing you’ve learned on social media?

Focus on the positive as well. Social media platforms can also be used for good. Information sharing, consciousness-raising, rallying support for worthy causes—encourage your teen to find things to admire and join online.

Dr. Deborah Gilboa

Deborah Gilboa, M.D. (a.k.a. “Dr. G”), is a family physician and author of Get the Behavior Your Want  . . . Without Being the Parent You Hate. Follow her on Twitter @AskDocG or learn more at AskDoctorG.com.

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