by Samantha Zabell
Our teens are learning a whole new method of communication through texting and Twitter. Screen chats are full of LOLs and BFFs, but what happens when your teenager communicates face-to-face? Parents have the tools to help teenagers learn to communicate effectively in the “real” world. Etiquette consultant Jay Remer and Daniel Post Senning, spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute, offer these four suggestions.
Help Teens Communicate
If your teen is nervous about an upcoming speech or presentation, encourage them to rehearse in front of the mirror. Your teen might think that speakers just get up in front of an audience and effortlessly give a presentation. They need to be told that everyone practices. Remer says six times is the lucky number; after that, the words will flow easily.
Teens must learn the skill of listening. Real listening is learned at. Many people listen while waiting for their turn to talk. Post says, “Listening is one of the most engaging things you can do as a conversationalist.”
Parents can help teenagers be better communicators by, well, talking. Be it at dinner or in the car, devote time to practicing those face-to-face skills, and take advantage of this one-on-one time with your teen by minimizing distractions (i.e. turning off your cell phones).
Beware of using the word “Like”
Both Remer and Post call these “filler words” and say they can make a teenager sound immature. Instead of correcting your teenager’s every “like,” help teenagers by mentioning the habit periodically. Also encourage your teenager and her friends to keep each other’s “likes” in check.
Why does it matter? “You cannot establish real trust without face-to-face verbal communication,” Remer says. “Learning to communicate skillfully at an early age is a great gift.”
Samantha Zabell is a senior at Northwestern University, where she is majoring in journalism.