Dear Your Teen:
I have a 14-year-old who’s always on the phone. Even when she is not using it, it has to be near her. It’s like an addiction. She claims to like listening to music with it, but it seems to be more than that. She is a good kid and gets good grades in school.
Teen Cell Phone Rules for a 14-Year-Old
What are there cell phone rules for a 14 year old? This is a question that many parents can relate to. The phone, in some ways, has replaced the television of the 1970s. We’d dread when a parent would say the words, “That’s enough TV… shut it off and go outside!”
Today’s parents can think about their own teenage television habits and ask themselves: “What are the rules for TV in our house?” Use that as your reference point for cell phone rules for your 14 year old. How much do you want your teenager to be on his or her phone?
Ideally, parents establish the expectations regarding phone usage from the beginning. I cannot stress this enough. Otherwise, it ends up like a runaway train.
Put The Phone Down: Rules for Limitations
Questions to answer before handing over a phone: When can your adolescent use the device? All the time? Or perhaps you want to limit it to after homework is finished, a period before bedtime, or just weekends? Where is the phone stored? Who pays for the phone? Again, answer as many of these questions as you can in advance and make your expectations clear.
For the parent who posted this question, it will be hard to rewind and set some rules in place after the fact, but I recommend you try.
Your daughter is doing well in school. Commend her for that and explain that you don’t think the phone is hurting her academics, but that you still believe it’s important she learn to be less attached to her phone.
There is evidence that these gadgets create an addictive response in all of us. Setting limits will help your teenager learn to be less dependent on her phone.
I suggest slowly weening your daughter off her phone to a period of time that you are comfortable with. Maybe start with no phone during dinner. Then move to no phone after a certain time on a school night. Explain to your daughter that just like you wouldn’t allow her to watch television 24/7, there are times when the phone also needs to be put away.
You may also consider setting up a central location for charging and storing her phone at night. This should not be her bedroom, as research shows that teenagers who have phones in their bedrooms get up to an hour less sleep than peers who keep their phones elsewhere. Your daughter gets it back once she comes downstairs for breakfast.
Also, don’t forget to take a look at your own phone habits. Remember, you are setting an example for her.
Dr. Carol Langlois is trained therapist, who works with adolescent and teenage girls. You can read her blog at Dr-Carol.com. Her book, Girl Talk: Boys, Bullies and Body Image, is available on Amazon.