By Reilly Spencer-Trueman
If I had the choice of changing everything, I would not change a thing.
I was adopted when I was a baby. My birth mother had my older brother when she was 13 and she parented him. Then, when she was 15, she had me and she made an adoption plan for me. Finally, when she was 17, she had my younger sister, married my sister’s father and parented my sister, too.
I had an open adoption. I kept in contact with my birth mother until I was 15 years old. That’s when I met my birth father for the first time. This upset my birth mother, and she closed our adoption.
When I met my birth father, I also met my little brother for the first time; he was two years old. I was so happy. I always knew I had another sibling. I almost cried when I met him. That was the best day of my life. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love him so much.
I miss my older brother and younger sister. When I stopped talking to my birth mother, I stopped talking to my other siblings, too. When I turn 18, I hope I can talk to them. It makes me sad not to see them any more. I love them a lot.
My other two siblings are awesome. They are both adopted, just like me. I’m glad my parents adopted them. Though on most days they get on my nerves, I still love them. I know they love me, too.
I’m so happy that I met my birth dad. He is one of the best people in my life. He makes me happy because he’s so silly and makes me laugh. I don’t know where I would be without him. He has made such a big impact on my life. Before I met him, I used to be so sad because I felt like I was missing a piece of myself. Now I have found my piece. I love him to death.
Adoption has changed my life, and I would not change it for anything. I’m happy with my life. I think everyone should adopt. I know I will adopt kids when I find a great wife.
Being adopted has its up and downs. I love how my family is bigger and how I have more siblings, grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins.
But sometimes it’s hard because I wish I could see all my siblings every day. Even though I miss them, I love each moment I do get to see them.
I’m glad my parents adopted me. Without them I would not be the woman I am today. Family is family, no matter what its biological, adopted, surrogate, or friendship status is.
Reilly Spencer-Trueman, an aspiring Medical Aesthetician, is in her last year of high school and enjoys art, her cat Opal, and skating on a Jr. Roller Derby Team, the Crooked River Roller Girls.
Editor’s Note — Your Teen connected with Reilly through Adoption Network Cleveland. Adoption Network Cleveland was founded in 1988 and provides support, education, and advocacy for adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, foster youth and parents, foster care alumni, and professionals. ANC offers a wide variety of workshops, support groups, and social gatherings for anyone touched by adoption and foster care. To learn more, visit AdoptionNetwork.org.