How do you talk to your teens and tweens about sex, sexting, masturbation and values in a calm, non-judgmental manner? Sounds impossible, we know. But watch this news clip of Dr. Deborah Gilboa aka Ask Dr. G and you will realize that talking to your teens and tweens about sex doesn’t have to be horrible. And of course, it is the right thing to do.
Val Warner: Dr. G is a parenting expert, family physician, and mother of four boys. She’s back with us to give us some tips on when and how to talk to your children about S-E-X.
Dr. G: You know they can spell that.
Val Warner: I know right? Ji and Ryan decided they wanted to be on here, even though they’re childless, they have a lot to say about talking to your kids about sex.
Ryan Chiaverini: Yes, and especially because I don’t remember my parents ever talking to me about it. I need to learn something in this segment. I mean really, I don’t remember how having this conversation.
Dr. G: Are you going to send this to your mom?
Ryan Chiaverini: Yes.
Val Warner: Ji did your parents ever talk to you about sex?
Ji Suk Yi: I think we had a vague conversation. It all started with MTV. Remember when MTV used to play music videos? And I think there was a George Michael video on, a real seductive one. I was watching it, and my mom was like “What are you doing in here?” And then it was kind of like sex is this mysterious thing. She didn’t really explain the logistics of it.
Val Warner: The act?
Ji Suk Yi: She just basically told me that it’s something that I should never do until I’m married and that, you know, just generally avoid it altogether. Which wasn’t really very useful.
Dr. G: Right.
Ji Suk Yi: And then I learned it from everybody else, like, playing Barbie’s. I think that’s how we learned.
Ryan Chiaverini: Right.
Val Warner: Well my parents…
Ji Suk Yi: It was like “I think this is what happens” and we would play with the Barbie’s. I don’t remember. “I think this is what happens.”
Val Warner: Yeah well my family, they taught abstinence, so there was really no sex talks, because you’re not ever supposed to have sex until you get married. And my father, god bless his soul, to the day he died he thought I’d practiced abstinence.
(For the rest of this discussion, please view the attached video, courtesy of Ask Dr. G)