This article is part of our series on The Hookup Culture. Read more articles in the series by following the links at the end of this article.
Gone are the days with drive-in movies and guys asking, “Will you be my girlfriend?” Now, the hookup has seemingly integrated itself into high school and teen culture, and though it sometimes ends in the two people dating, more often than not, it’s a one and done deal with no strings attached.
Communication is essential in navigating the teen hookup generation. Without it, situations can become very awkward and complicated. For example, hooking up can mean sex to one partner and making out to the other. It is often a one-time thing, but occasionally it can turn into an intimate relationship.
Not all teen hookups are planned. In fact, most of them are usually at a party where alcohol can get the best of two people, ending in a drunken make-out session.
Regardless of whether they’re planned or spontaneous, the aftermath of hookups can be problematic. Does the guy call the girl? Does she feel obligated to talk to him the next day? One time, I hooked up with a close friend at a party, and when I texted her the next day, she acted very strange. She went on to tell me how she wasn’t interested in a relationship; our hookup was a one-time thing. I told her I understood. But, the hookup did make things awkward.
Emotions can also come into play. Sometimes, one person can like the other one afterwards, even if it was a one-time thing. I know a teen who developed a crush after hooking up with a girl, even though she wasn’t interested. Feelings, wanted or unwanted, develop, and people can get hurt. I’ve seen it happen.
Read more articles in our series on The Hookup Culture:
The Hookup Culture—Expert View: How to Talk to Your Teenager
The Hookup Culture—Expert View: Understanding Teen Attitudes Toward Sex
The Hookup Culture—Teen View: I Wish I Had Waited
The Hookup Culture—Parent View: I Won’t Give Up Without a Fight