Comments on: Should a Parent Report Bad Behavior to Another Parent? http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/ Help, Advice,Tips and Support for Parents of Teens Parents, teens and professionals share how to raise healthy, self-confident, independent, safe and happy teens as parents deal with adolescence and struggles with drugs, alcohol, suicide, stress, divorce, college Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:33:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Katz http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-426 Katz Fri, 26 Feb 2010 00:58:39 +0000 http://yourteenmag.com/?p=421#comment-426 I seem to be out of the loop here...my son's friends are into the weed, booze and sex. I even went so far as inform the other parents and they said "Yeah they know..." ?????????? I seem to be out of the loop here…my son’s friends are into the weed, booze and sex. I even went so far as inform the other parents and they said “Yeah they know…” ??????????

]]> By: Thomas http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-272 Thomas Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:03:13 +0000 http://yourteenmag.com/?p=421#comment-272 KBlue, first of all: Truck driver language... so what? your sister clearly knows her daughter far better than you do and believes that she is using crude language as an outlet for the confusion of her teenage years and who she is as a person. As for your nephew who may according to you be sexually active. So what? If he is having sex then you should have faith that either his school or parents taught protection and safety. And your sister may not be clueless but rather understanding and realizing he won't be a baby and is almost an adult. And think his girlfriend can see what he posts if you can and she clearly is okay with it as a joke or sarcasm. As an adult with nothing better to do then stalk your nephew and niece on face book you don't seem to understand parenting. KBlue, first of all: Truck driver language… so what? your sister clearly knows her daughter far better than you do and believes that she is using crude language as an outlet for the confusion of her teenage years and who she is as a person.
As for your nephew who may according to you be sexually active. So what? If he is having sex then you should have faith that either his school or parents taught protection and safety. And your sister may not be clueless but rather understanding and realizing he won’t be a baby and is almost an adult. And think his girlfriend can see what he posts if you can and she clearly is okay with it as a joke or sarcasm. As an adult with nothing better to do then stalk your nephew and niece on face book you don’t seem to understand parenting.

]]> By: KBlue http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-258 KBlue Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:40:35 +0000 http://yourteenmag.com/?p=421#comment-258 I am having this problem, too. My Niece and Nephew are on Facebook - the Niece and all her friends use truck drive language all the time - I had let my sister know, and she hates it but obviously has not even tried to stop her or monitor the account. I just saw yesterday that my nephew posted some comments that make me think he might be sexually active (he's 16) - at the very least, I am gravely disappointed in the crude language he was using talking with and about his girlfriend - this is NOT the image I had of him. I know my sister would be shocked, but don't feel she would address the real problems and also know that she would blurt out where she got the info - though if she bothered to pay attention it is out there for anyone to see. I just feel it would have huge ramifications on my relationships with all of them without having ANY effect on the real issue. I am so stumped as to what to do. WHY MUST PARENTS BE SO CLUELESS!!!! I HATE HAVING TO HAVE THIS DILEMMA - I WISH SHE WOULD JUST BE A PARENT!!! I am having this problem, too. My Niece and Nephew are on Facebook – the Niece and all her friends use truck drive language all the time – I had let my sister know, and she hates it but obviously has not even tried to stop her or monitor the account.

I just saw yesterday that my nephew posted some comments that make me think he might be sexually active (he’s 16) – at the very least, I am gravely disappointed in the crude language he was using talking with and about his girlfriend – this is NOT the image I had of him. I know my sister would be shocked, but don’t feel she would address the real problems and also know that she would blurt out where she got the info – though if she bothered to pay attention it is out there for anyone to see. I just feel it would have huge ramifications on my relationships with all of them without having ANY effect on the real issue. I am so stumped as to what to do. WHY MUST PARENTS BE SO CLUELESS!!!! I HATE HAVING TO HAVE THIS DILEMMA – I WISH SHE WOULD JUST BE A PARENT!!!

]]> By: Carrie Nagy http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-201 Carrie Nagy Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:05:23 +0000 http://yourteenmag.com/?p=421#comment-201 I think when a child is putting themselves or others in danger, and an adult knows this, it is the adults responsibility to let the child's parents know. I think when a child is putting themselves or others in danger, and an adult knows this, it is the adults responsibility to let the child’s parents know.

]]> By: Ellen Ozery http://yourteenmag.com/2009/12/tattling-on-kids-should-parents-tell-other-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-200 Ellen Ozery Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:28:57 +0000 http://yourteenmag.com/?p=421#comment-200 My daughters spend a lot of time on Facebook and often invite me to come sit with them and view photos of friends, trips and even parties. I often see things that I am not so happy about but we have an open conversation about the smoking,drinking and crude picture taking. A number of children in these pictures are children of colleagues.I often choose to say nothing for fear that they will not believe what I have seen. Yet with others I do feel comfortable enough to share what I have seen. Usually I find a round about way to discuss what I have seen and only then do I share the knowledge that their children were involved. I hope I have not offended anyone. They have thanked me for sharing and being concerned. My daughters spend a lot of time on Facebook and often invite me to come sit with them and view photos of friends, trips and even parties. I often see things that I am not so happy about but we have an open conversation about the smoking,drinking and crude picture taking. A number of children in these pictures are children of colleagues.I often choose to say nothing for fear that they will not believe what I have seen. Yet with others I do feel comfortable enough to share what I have seen. Usually I find a round about way to discuss what I have seen and only then do I share the knowledge that their children were involved. I hope I have not offended anyone. They have thanked me for sharing and being concerned.

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