Comments on: Brazilian Waxing for Teens

By: Eileen

Eileen — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:34:32 +0000

As a college health professional, I have seen many students (age 18 and up) who have no idea about the risks or consequences of sexual behaviors. They don’t understand that it can only take one time to get a sexually transmitted disease, get AIDS, or get pregnant. We owe it to our children to share our knowledge with them in a non-judgemental caring way.

As parents, we talk to them about other decisions they are making in their lives such as doing their homework, how they are driving, drugs/alcohol use, etc. Please have that talk with your child about sex….When your child knows that they can talk to you about anything, they are more likely to do so and to engage is less risky behaviors.

By: sprylie

sprylie — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 18:34:36 +0000

I’m thinking lots is right here, well done for raising a daughter who questions what’s going on around her. but also this: your daughter seems super-smart, and gets that the Brazilian is infantilizing while at the same time erotic. Have THAT conversation with her. It’s NOT black and white. And have that complicated conversation about your own choices when it came to depillitation, which were, by the way, driven by someone else’s expectations (remember your self-consciousness, and desire not to “look like a hippie”…it WAS your choice, but still and all you altered your body for someone else’s gaze. I imagine the shaved girl in the locker room would look at you and square her shoulders and defend her actions as “my choice” too…wrongheaded, but I bet it’s her belief. I’m just saying, it’s not the end of the world to describe your confusion, sadness even, at having to make certain choices to fit in….it might help HER talk about the pressures that weigh on her, which are different than the ones you faced. It might help her to talk about what’s intriguing, desirable about the life of the girls on the other side of the depillitation fence. (because lets face it, oral sex is great, and who wouldn’t want to have it? when I was a teenager a boy giving a GIRL oral sex was unheard of! Lockerroom girl might even claim to be a feminist, getting a boy to perform for her, rather than expecting her to service him!). Anyway, these are conversations to have, layers and layers of conversation are needed around these issues. Better to get closer in to them than let your shock and outrage make you seem like a distant or outdated resource for her.

I don’t know. My own best advice came from my dad, watching me cry after breaking up with a beloved college boyfriend….”it’s just really hard, after you’ve been intmate, to break up. it makes the break up that much harder.” Good cautionary words. I never did take sex casually before that, but it sure helped me not use up my 20′s experimenting with empty encounters.

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:23:01 +0000

Lauri is spot on! She must be a great parent. Her teen daughter shares information with her! She must have started the open communication at a young age. I applaud Lauri for her communication skills with her daughter and with her readers. Keep the topics coming…readers need to be reminded and enlightened about the challenges our teens are facing.

By: Arlene Smith

Arlene Smith — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 05:29:18 +0000

Once again I am shocked by the reminder of what today’s teenager’s are facing. As young women, the pressure placed on them by society and young men is incredible. Have I properly prepared my daughter to make the right choices and not cave into what has truly become a society without morals or values?

Your Teen has, once again, raised yet another topic that emphasizes the challenges faced by teens and by parents to help their teens through these difficult times.

By: Stacey Herbert

Stacey Herbert — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:10:31 +0000

Our children need to be taught that sex is not some casual encounter that the media has made it to be. It is our job as parents to teach them all of the emotions that are involved and consequences (std, pregnancy) And Lauri your Mother’s argument is perfect. A man should never tell a woman to change. If you want to shave it, or dye it pink you do that for you not because a man tells you to.

By: Ellen Ozery

Ellen Ozery — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:13:55 +0000

I so completely agree with everything Laurie says. In this modern age of promiscuity with sex plastered all over the media I can only hope that we have educated and shared enough with our children so that they may make the correct choices both moral and personal. Sex has become a casual thing with many teenagers I just hope that mine don’t take it casually!